Do Girls Really Like Surfers? Plus Most Attractive And Least Attractive Traits of Surfers

The 80s and 90s were filled with Baywatch fantasy surfers who attracted girls with a grin. Of course, this trope neglected to remember that there are girls and women surfers. Nonetheless, the fact remains that surfers do have a special allure and can be fun to date. Surfers have attractive traits, such as loving the outdoors and being fit. But it isn’t always a fun date at the beach.

Plenty of girls like and date surfers. Many girls are surfers. People who enjoy the outdoors and being active find surfers attractive. However, surf culture isn’t for everyone. In addition, boy surfers that are dating or want to date girl surfers need to ensure they’re not “surf-splining” (eek).

Dating a surfer is perfect if you enjoy personal space. But some people, such as girls, have romantic visions of dating surfers that involve long walks on the beach. Sure, there can be long walks on the beach while lugging a board to the secret spot. Or the non-surfer can walk on the beach alone. But surfers tend to be in the water. So, dating a surfer is either joining them or being happy doing you.

What Are The Most Attractive Traits Of Surfers According To Girls?

Girls are like fishes in the sea: there is a variety, and they all have different opinions. Thus, the most attractive trait in a surfer totally depends on the girl. But we’ve gathered up a few attritive traits of surfers.

Surfers Are Attractive Because They Give You Space

Surfer girl Ann told us she finds surfers attractive because “They give you space.”

It’s true. Surfers may be on the water bobbing together, but each is on its own board and riding its own wave (usually). Plus, surfers are racing out to the beach at o’dark-early, mumbling something about the perfect waves, and won’t be seen for hours or days.

Independent girls enjoy dating a surfer because it suits their lifestyle. They can still do the things they love without worrying about boys whining for attention.

Surfers Love The Outdoors

Lots of girls appreciate a guy that loves mother nature. Surf culture is about respecting the sea and those living in it. Besides, the sport is held in a much more beautiful and better-smelling setting than most sports. (Sorry, gym lovers, but the fragrance of BO and Axe will never beat the scent of the sea).

Surfers Make Excellent Eye Candy

Girls like to look just as much as the guys, and surfers have their bodies on fine display. Regardless if it is hanging out in your trunks or dressed up like a seal in your wetsuit, surfers are looking fine. As Jeannine put it, “The body of a surfer is usually of a top athlete, male or female. So, a surfer has tight everything. Who is not attracted to that?”

However, we do know some of you have dad bods. But hey, you’re exercising and doing what you love, and that earns respect, appreciation, and, if you’re lucky, a date.

Surfers Take Care Of Their Mental Health

Gone are the days when girls are attracted to “macho men” that deny their feelings and use anger to respond to every life challenge. Also, modern girls have learned that trying to “fix” a man’s emotional baggage is impossible.

Instead, women appreciate men who can talk about their feelings and have healthy outlets and management techniques for stressors, anxiety, depression, and improving self-esteem. Many surfers can, and it isn’t all because of surfing culture but the actual participation in the sport.

Scientific studies have backed this up with evidence that surfing:

• Provides a healthy break from everyday stress
• Reduces the body’s stress hormone levels
• Activates the body’s mood-boosting neurotransmitters
• Helps manage depression
• Can boost confidence

Girls are attracted to people who take care of themselves, both physically and mentally, and many surfers fit this bill.

Of course, there are exceptions. Anyone who has surfed or has hung out with surfers knows that one person whose life is always on the cusp of wiping out. But you could argue they would be even worse off if they didn’t have surfing.

What Are The Least Attractive Traits Of Surfers According To Girls?

“Don’t steal my wave,” one surfer girl quipped on Reddit. She summed up the least attractive traits of surfers: sexism and ego.

Sexism Isn’t Attractive

Surfers have a reputation for being a little sexist, especially to girls who surf. There have been studies and article after article on the issue. So, if you’re a surfer struggling to get a date, maybe reassess some of your opinions about girls.

Surfers Can Be Selfish

Surfers are known to put the waves first and everything else second, that includes their partners and non-surfing friends. Their love of surfing comes before all else, and that can feel selfish. If that might be you, perhaps consider compromising.

Just a thought.

Surfers Give You Space

Surfers give you space. Not all girls find this attractive. Some want their romantic relationships to be do-everything-together, and unless she’s willing to grab a board or you’re willing to stop surfing, this isn’t going to work. It is what it is.

Surfers Can Have Big Egos

Surfers can develop a bit of an ego. Sure, surfing helps manage mental health and improves self-confidence, but unless it comes with a slice of humility, that can become insufferable.

Also, if she’s a surfer too, she might not want to hear you surf-splining her own sport to her. Seriously, back to that sexist comment. Just stop. Also, let her have her place in the lineup without you giving her hassle.

How Important Is Surfing For Girls When It Comes To Dating A Surfer?

“It’s not the fact that he’s a surfer that would make him attractive,” said Mana X, “but rather, the fact that he’s good at it.” She added, “Talent is attractive.”

Perusing the chat boards leads to similar comments, such as the young lady from Wales who said, “Surfer guys have that cool about them, normally less stressed and fun to be around.”

It isn’t that actual surfing that girls are attracted to, but the confidence, talent, and personality the sport and surfing culture have enabled and developed.

That said, the young lady from Wales also mentioned, “Surfing keeps them fit so they got the sexy body.” So, there’s that.

However, there are some girls (women) who do care about a surfer’s surfing: surfers. “Being married to a surfer meant we supported each other’s interests,” Marie told us. “When the kids were small, we’d swop back and forth, hanging out with the kids on the beach while the others caught waves. It’s become a family sport that we all love.”

Do All Girls Like Surfers Or Just Some?

Saying, “All girls like surfers,” is like saying, “All boys surf.” But frankly, we’ve seen some of you out there and, well, bless your hearts, you try.

So no, not all girls like surfers, just as not all surfers are any good at the sport they love. Thankfully, it doesn’t matter; the waves will bring you back to shore regardless of whether you stay on the board.

We wouldn’t recommend learning to surf to attract girls. That said, if a girl you like is a surfer, and you’ve always wanted to learn, ask her to teach you. If she’s got the time and finds you fun to be around, she’ll probably say yes.

Are There Any Negative Stereotypes Associated With Dating A Surfer

Hollywood has given the world plenty of negative stereotypes:

• Surfers are so stoned out they can’t remember their girlfriend’s name (or their own)
• Surfers love you and leave you without a goodbye
• They get sand everywhere
• They never remember to wear underwear (perhaps that’s a plus?)
• They never show up anywhere on time, even if it’s important, and when you complain
• Every date will be structured around the tide tables
• Every vacation will involve surfing
• They’ll always be bumming money off you because they’re broke

 

Hey, these are stereotypes. We’re not saying they’re true.

Conclusion

Surfing is a sport that develops characteristics people, such as girls, look for in a date: self-confidence, an appreciation of nature, and a healthy body and mind. All of which is great, so long as you don’t develop a big head. Never mind that girls don’t like it; being top-heavy makes it harder to balance on your board.

Surfer girl “Ann” is my teenage daughter who asked me to use the second half of her middle name.

Marie is my middle name – yes, my husband and I surf and raised little surfers.